Going through a divorce is tough stuff. It takes an emotional toll and can be taxing just to get through those first days.
As time continues on things become easier. Once the panic attacks stopped I took some time for deep introspection. Some people use divorce as a way to better themselves, some just move on with life unwilling to change. For me, I knew I needed to change. I knew because my marriage failed that I needed to regroup and figure some stuff out. In this post I will be talking about what I did to help myself gain insight to where I am now.
Step one. I bit the bullet and called a therapist. I began seeing a counselor/therapist every week. It was good to talk things through. It was a very safe, confidential place for me to sort through all the emotions I was experiencing.
Step two. I went to church. I continued to attend my church even when it was tough for me to leave the house. Being with like minded people helped me connect with God on a greater level. Listening to the sermons each week, praying for others and just fellowship helped me not to dwell on the changes that were happening in my life.
Step three. I joined a Divorce Care bible study. I heard through my church that there was specific bible study for divorced/divorcing folks. I took the 12 week course. I met some great people and gained some support.
Step four. I went on a spiritual retreat. My pastor told me about a retreat called Best 8 Days. It is for college aged people or people who are facing life decisions. I went. I met my now husband. I fell in love with God again. It truly was the best 8 days!
All four of these things helped me to love myself like I never had before. It took turning 30 years old and a divorce for me to figure out who I am. I have to say, I really like me. I know now that all the pain and hurt that I endured was for a purpose. I had no idea in the depths of my sorrow that I would be where I am now. I wouldn’t wish the pain on anyone, not even my worst enemy. If you are going through a divorce/separation/hard spot in your marriage, please know that this blog is a safe place. People matter. You matter.
We are here to help. We are still working out the kinks, starting things up and getting things going. Stick around, we hope to encourage you and help you get back to being you.
